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 What You Don't Know about Online Safety
Can Hurt You

by
Linda Lee 2008

 

 

                                                                        

Safety on the Net is certainly on any parents mind these days.

With most of our kids spending time on the Web, we need to educate and learn safety online

for our children's sake and our own!

What can a parent do to help protect your children and yourself and your computer?

* Easy effective ways to protect your computer

* What you can do to protect your family

* Online Bullying

* Myspace ,Facebook, Friendster, blogs and profiles. Are they safe?

 

                     
1.   Easy effective ways to protect your computer:
A)   NEVER EVER EVER allow free downloads unless you are sure it is “safe” download
B)   Do not let your children download “Free Stuff”- Nothing ‘Free’ Is Ever Free.
      This is a prime method spyware creators use to gain access to your computer          .
C)   Install Anti-Spyware programs
  
  There are very few free safe downloads- but there are some. Here are three of the best FREE
  Keep your Pc safe and clean, and surf safely!

The 3 FREE best Anti-Spyware tools I use

Ad-aware http://www.lavasoftusa.com/support/download/

Spybot http://www.safer-networking.org/en/download/index.html

For other useful tools and interesting downloads, check out

For safe and useful downloads, you can trust

    RUN THEM ONCE A WEEK!
   Install updates for these programs as they become available.
   Windows XP users- you must install your software updates.
   Most of these are security patches.
   Ways to Protect Your Family
  * Keep the computer in a family area.
   Monitor it, where it is easy to see and you are aware of what your 
   children are doing  
   
  *   No computer with Internet access in a child’s room...
    Having a computer out in the open reduces the temptation to go to      
    unsavory or dangerous sites by about 75%
    
  *   Set your search engine preferences to “strict filtering”
     All search engines offer this feature; I feel Google is the best.
     This still allows you and children to do research or homework freely 
     while protecting them from unwanted images and text.
    
     Simply find the section in your search engine that says
     Advanced features- click there.
     This will take you to your choices on filtering – Strict, Moderate or none.
   
    * Monitor Your Children’s History - Set the ‘History’ feature … 
      Open Internet Explorer- Click on Tools tab -/this opens to the General  
      tab- /the third box down is History- / Set the amount of days you want
      the history saved.
       Then to check the ‘History’ …Open Internet Explorer-/ Find the icon on
       your toolbar that says History. Click on it, and on the left-hand side  
       menu will open up and you will see all the days you requested saved,
       recent Internet activity.

  * Online Chat Rooms, Instant Messaging & Online Predators

  
ü       Set time limits. This may be unpopular, but it is necessary with today’s advanced technology.
ü       Know whom your children are talking with. Know the nicknames and who they are.
ü       Do not tolerate unknown parties.
ü       Be aware of acronyms: pbm. - “parent behind me” and pos- “parent over shoulder”.     
               http://www.netlingo.com is a great reference guide to web lingo!
ü       Tell your children that at any time you may sit in and watch the conversation.
ü        Do not let your children go into places online that you are not aware of.
        
 Sit down and discuss the following safety guidelines with your children.
1) Never, ever give out any personal information about yourself online!
 If you give out your name or address, people can find where you live, and this can be very dangerous.
 Do not tell people where you are going, what you do, and where you live.
2) Do not go to any chat rooms without your parent’s permission.
Only talk to people you know personally.
Many dangerous people pretend to be a teenager in chat rooms.
Never agree to meet someone you have met online
3) Do not feel like you have to respond to any messages, emails or text messages
 that make you uncomfortable or upset you.
4) Always tell an adult when you feel threatened or upset by anything online!  
 
 
       
Online Bullying… What is it and what can you do?

     This is when other kids harass your children through instant messaging, 

      email or text messages using the cell phone. 

    

    What can you do?

Ø       Talk to your kids about it. Ask direct questions, "Have you or any of friends ever been harassed online”?  

Ø       Ask them what may have happened with their friends, this makes it easier to start a dialog.

                 Let your children know the following: They can…

Ø       Block emails from bullies

Ø       Block Id’s in IM/AIM that are saying hurtful things or harassing them

Ø       Never give out your full name or any personal information online, always first name only!

Ø       Do not respond to bullies- TELL YOUR PARENTS or another adult! They are not alone.

For more information on the effects of bullying and strategies and resources to prevent it and protect your child: http://www.besafeonline.org/English/bullying_online.htm
    
* Myspace -Online diaries/journals/blogs. Is it safe? 
    
Myspace is a meeting/social networking website.
Millions of teenagers, (and millions of adults) create
highly personal profiles and journal their thoughts online.
These often include shockingly revealing photos, and
personal information.
There are not filters that you , as a parent can use to keep your child from seeing all of these.
Myspace is loaded with nude photos, and tons of sexual inappropriate content
.
                                               
A study of teenagers' blogs/journals published this year by the Children's Digital Media Center
at GeorgetownUniversityrevealed that kids volunteer far too much information.
Two-thirds provide their age and at least their first name; 60 percent offer their location and contact information.
 One in five offer up their full name. Our kids are telling strangers their inner most feelings,
 school they attend, town they live in and more. This is not safe, at any age
*        You must be 14 to sign up. ( this is in no way enforced)
Just two years after its creation, MySpace went from zero to more fifty million members.
 As of  August 2006, the web reports were up to 100 million!
 
Percentage of Monthly Market Share of Visits Among Top Social Networking Web Sites (U.S.), April Through June 2006
Domain June 2006 May 2006 April 2006
www.myspace.com 79.97 77.20 76.07
www.thefacebook.com 7.58 8.73 8.24
www.xanga.com 3.81 4.40 5.29
360.yahoo.com 1.13 1.29 1.38
www.bebo.com 0.98 0.77 0.73
www.tagged.com 0.92 0.97 1.17
www.classmates.com 0.83 1.01 1.30
www.hi5.com 0.78 1.06 1.19
spaces.msn.com 0.75 1.29 1.41
www.sconex.com 0.64 0.70 0.81
www.gaiaonline.com 0.57 0.50 0.50
www.bolt.com 0.52 0.43 0.21
www.friendster.com 0.46 0.53 0.58
www.orkut.com 0.30 0.33 0.30
www.myyearbook.com 0.26 0.25 0.24
www.crushspot.com 0.18 0.18 0.18
www.migente.com 0.16 0.18 0.19
www.tagworld.com 0.13 0.14 0.14
www.faceparty.com 0.02 0.02 0.03
www.xuqa.com 0.02 0.02 0.04
Source: Hitwise, 2006

 
   All parents need to take a serious look around these websites before you let  your children participate.
*          Sexual solicitations from strangers are a fact of life for MySpace.com bloggers.
 It is the No.1 site for teen social networking and "if teens are there, predators are there too,"
said John Shehan of the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children's Exploited Child Unit.

*       If you decide to allow your child to participate, make sure you help them set

   “Myspace” privacy feature. This only allows approved “friends” access to their information and photos,

 and keeps their profile from being posted for the general population  

*    Check out this and all websites before your children sign up.

*      Talk to your child about online safety

*     Keep your eye on where and what they are doing online.

       
Recent News from Wikipedia about schools restricting the use of myspace. 
Many schools and public libraries in the United States and the United Kingdom have restricted access to
MySpace because it has become "such a haven for student gossip and malicious comments".[23]
 A Catholic school in New Jersey has even prohibited students from using MySpace at home,
 although experts questioned the legality of such a ban.[24] In Autumn 2005 Pope John XXIII Regional High School
in Sparta Township, New Jerseymade headlines by forbidding its students to have pages
 on MySpace or similar websites or face suspension.[25]
The school claimed that this action was made to protect its students from online predators.[26]
On July 28, 2006 , the United States House of Representatives passed a controversial bill
 requiring libraries and schools receiving certain types of federal funding (E-rate)
 to prevent unsupervised minors from using chat rooms and social networking websites,
such as MySpace. This bill, known as the Deleting Online Predators Act of 2006 (DOPA),
was approved by a 410-15 vote and is pending approval in the United States Senate.

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